Stay in hard conversations — without losing yourself. And have ridiculous fun while doing it.
We bet on the room, not the mind.
Live sessions · Amsterdam · Real disagreement · Small groups · No lectures · Pilot 1
Imagine being asked to make the strongest possible case for something you'd never argue for in real life — ban all chairs kind of territory.
A few minutes to build it. Someone else builds the opposite. And then you argue.
Sometimes the premise is ridiculous. But sometimes it's dead serious. And it hits a nerve.
The Why
People are exhausted — not by disagreement itself, but by how bad we've all become at it.
Hard conversations break because no one built the room for them. No structure to keep things steady. No safety when it gets hot. And no clean way out if you need one.
We treat that as a design problem, not a moral failure. We blame the room, not the person.
So that's what I'm building. Better rooms.
Like WD-40, but for your brain. Because rusty thoughts squeak.
There's a longer version of all this. Read the Manifesto.
What You Leave With
A few shifts worth naming.
You'll notice something about how you actually argue — usually mid-game, usually slightly embarrassing, often useful.
Changing your mind starts to feel more like a normal thing. Not a defeat, not an event. Just a thing that happens.
An opinion shouldn't have to feel like an identity. Practice helps.
What To Expect
Three things you can count on. We handle the rest.
You can sit anything out. The room moves on. No explanation needed.
No one is here to fix you. We're here to practice — not to diagnose, heal, or unpack your childhood traumas.
You're not auditioning for a side. Mixed views, mixed everything. No team to join, and no argument to win.
Sounds about right?
An Evening With In|Betweens
A small group. Different people.
The kind of evening that doesn't really make sense until you've been in one. Strangers arguing for things they don't believe, finding out they kind of do. You end up somewhere between the absurd and the uncomfortable.
The rest, you find out for yourself.
The What & When
~2 hours. ~10 people. Free for now.
You're not paying — you're the experiment. The proof or the no-go.
One evening, beginning of September, week 36.
Who's Behind This
Built by Antonio. A loud Croatian in Amsterdam who's trying to listen better. No credentials — just someone who got quite interested in human behaviour, biases, and better ways to disagree. A hobby that got out of hand, especially these days, when the world keeps trying to make everyone pick a team. Which is BS.
The honest reason this exists: underneath it all, we're different, faulty humans. Which is mostly fine. We're not bad people, just a bit contradictory. And nothing is set in stone. Things change, and so do we.
In|Betweens is roughly 30% built. The other 70% is what these sessions are for. What works, stays. What doesn't, gets fired.
I'm not here to transform anyone. Just to point at something and see if it helps. The rest is on you.
Want in?
No newsletter. Just a heads-up when the next session is on.
If any of this landed, the door's open.
FAQ
Am I right for this?
Probably. The structure does the heavy lifting. Loud, quiet, debater, non-debater — the format works regardless.
Is this about politics?
No. Topics can come up — politics, religion, anything else — but they’re never the point. The point is how you argue, not what you argue about.
What about privacy?
No audio, no quotes — nothing leaves with anyone’s name attached. Photos and videos will be taken for the socials, but never of specific people mid-conversation without asking first. What’s said in the room stays in the room.
How many sessions?
One, for now. One room, one evening, see what happens. Many more to come.
Why is it free?
Pilot 1. I’m learning and you’re helping. That’s the trade. Expect a friendly ask on what worked, after the session.